The 6 Fatal Mistakes Women Make That Push Men Away
You've finally met a man that ticks all your boxes, and and everything has been going great between the two of you. Or so you thought. But then, quick as lightning, he was out the door. The thing about relationship is that, more often than not, women and men have unique and discordant perspectives.
From first date etiquette to when to sleep with their partner, the outlooks can be pretty diverse. And there significant differences even between individual of the same gender, due to cultural, societal or simply personality-related factors.
However, one thing needs to be clear: when a man pulls away from the woman he’s seeing it’s usually for a specific reason. Here are six fatal mistakes women make that push men away, and how to avoid them.
1. They’re clingy
If there’s one thing that’ll put off virtually any man it’s a clingy woman. Sure, it’s nice to be affectionate and show him that he’s constantly on your mind, but when you make him your be and end all, he’ll start to feel smothered. When this happens he’ll try to regain his independence by pulling away.
What’s worse is that you've basically made it known that you’re falling for him, too quickly. You have to understand that most men, including what you consider a "good guy", are looking for a certain level of "thrill" and fun in the beginning of a relationship. Therefore, letting him know or even simply act as you've fallen for him, or that you're already planning your future together will scare him away. Instead of showing your emotions too soon, it’s crucial that you remain calm, cool and collected.
Remember, if a man senses that a woman wants more from him and the relationship than he’s prepared to give, he will pull away.
2. They’re insecure
Studies have shown that 97% of women are unhappy with their bodies at least once a day.
Which is probably true, albeit rather shocking. However, the problem arises when women show their insecurities too much. Once he senses that you are insecure, there’s no going back. Instead of pushing him away with your self-doubts show him your happy-go-lucky side and he’ll be hooked.
A good tip to follow is to pretend that every date with your man is a first date, because there’s no way you’d let him see this side of you then. For more ideas on how to boost your self confidence click here and watch this free video presentation from relationship expert Amy North.
3. They’re unhappy without him
Just because you’re happy when you’re with him it doesn’t mean that he isn’t catching on to your negativity when he’s not in the room. In fact, if he knows that he’s your sole source of happiness then it’s likely to push him away.
The problem here is this type of situation makes him feel pressured to keep you content, and that’s a huge responsibility for anyone! Instead of relying on him to keep you smiling, make the most of your life. Do the things that you love. When you do, you’ll not only be making yourself happier, but it’ll improve the overall quality of your relationship too.
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4. They don't let them chase
One thing that all women need to be understand clearly and fully, is that men need the "chase". In other words, the feeling of "conquering" a woman. It's some kind of biological instinct that traces back to the early days of humanity, and can be linked to the animal world as well.
There is something about women that "play a little hard to get" that turns men on a lot more than women who give themselves away too soon.
Bear in mind I said a little. If you push it too far you might wind up annoying him and pushing him away.
5. They have high emotional expectations too soon
Once a man gains the key to a woman's heart, his primal feeling of chase usually vanishes, and should be replaced by a feeling of increased affection and attachment, which usually coincides with the stage where a couple decides to stick together and eventually even build a family.
As most of us know, and have perhaps experienced in many shapes or forms (from both women and men's side), this emotional attachment is not something that can happen at the beginning of a relationship. However, many women make the mistake of expecting this kind of emotional commitment way too soon from a man that they've been dating for a relatively short period of time.
Give your man time and space to breathe and let the feelings blossom and grow naturally. Remember to always focus on having balanced expectations of your relationship, especially in the early stages.
In fact, even in long-term relationships, when the "chase" and the thrill start fade away, it's a sign that the relationship dynamics between the couple have changed. This change is often a good sign, but can also be potentially dangerous to a couple's intimacy moving forward if not handled properly.
6. They are too dominant
It is a well known fact that many men don't feel particularly attracted to overly-dominant women. Is it perhaps because they feel threatened, and they can't handle strong women? Maybe...
Or maybe it's simply because being more receptive, delicate and "soft", is a naturally feminine characteristic, as opposed to the more dominant and "hard" qualities of men.
Without entering a social or political debate, let's just say that many men still prefer a feminine character in a partner as opposed to a masculine, dominant one. I myself, as a man, can confirm that this is true for me and the majority of men that I know personally.
Remember that this is something that has biological implications, and that if you want to stand more chances of keeping a good quality man interested in you long term, you should make sure you show him that you are a woman 100%. This doesn't mean you have to be submissive or passive (in fact this will probably hurt your chances as he will get bored more easily). But try your best to bring out your feminine, caring and sweet side when you're with him, without exaggerating or being too clingy. I can guarantee you won't be disappointed with the results!
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