How To Find A Right Man: Where Art Thou Prince Charming?
We live in a day and age where finding true unadulterated love has never been harder. I mean, you would think with all the technology and easy communication that it would be easy to make a connection right? Wrong. For the most part it seems that what most guys, and ladies, are interested in are casual non-committed "situationships".
If you are a woman looking for the real deal then this state of affairs might make it a little hard. But it isn’t impossible. There are actual Prince Charmings out there who will not waste your time or play with your feelings. All you need to do is to figure out how to find a man the right way. Below are 10 tips and tricks that should truly come in handy in your search for love.
How To Find A Right Man
1. Get your life in order first
If you want to have a healthy relationship, you cannot rely on anyone to fix you or make you complete. It is therefore very important to start your journey by fixing yourself. Deal with whatever trauma from your past or present that could affect your relationships. Maybe it was a traumatic childhood or a devastating breakup. Whatever the case, it is never a good idea to go looking for Prince Charming with a broken heart.
2. Know where to look
When it comes to finding the right guy, it is as much about the where as it is the how to find him. So where do good guys hang out? The answer is simple; not in the club. Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean that all guys who party or drink are bad guys. However, you are more likely to get disappointed if you go looking for love in such environments. This also doesn’t mean that all non-party animal Joes are saints. However, if you way your odds you have better chances of meeting a decent guy at a coffee shop, library, work or even church that you do at a bar.
3. Take it slow; there’s no deadline to beat
Many women have unfortunately allowed themselves to be enslaved by the idea of the “biological clock”. Yes it is true that women are limited in terms of fertility window which means it would be great to find a guy to settle with quickly. However, this should not be an excuse to rush things. Putting a relationship on fast forward mode makes it difficult for you to get to truly know your guy. You might even miss major red flags that will come to bite you in future. So take it slow and get to know the guys a little better. And remember, they invented egg storage banks for a good reason so take your time.
4. If you’re going to try online dating, go premium
Online dating is becoming more and more popular as a way to make connections and find love. The truth is, these platforms actually do work. However, there is as much chance of getting played and disappointed as there is with offline courtships. If you want success with these sites, try and go for premium packages. The fees basically should eliminate or at least reduce the amount of jokers who are only in it for fun leaving you with a pool of men seriously looking to settle down.
5. Don’t settle; but be ready to compromise
It is important for you as a woman to know exactly what you want when it comes to finding love. It is even more important to stay true to your standards and expectations. This means that no one, not even you, should bully you into settling for a guy simply because you think you cannot get anyone better. However, even as you stick to your guns on your expectations it is important to be ready to compromise. Remember that no one is perfect and sometimes it is OK to compromise. In this case, the best thing is to come up with a list of things you would like in your dream guy. Then split those into negotiable that you are willing to compromise on and non-negotiables that you stick with to the end.
6. Don’t be too picky
Another common mistake that I see a lot of women looking for love make is being too picky especially when it comes to physical appearance and financial status. This might sound corny but what is in a man’s heart should always tramp his bank account and grading on the hotness scale. Looks will fade, money will come and go but a truly good heart is priceless. So give people a chance; you might be surprised to find love in the most unexpected place.
7. Take good care of yourself
Looking good is always a major bonus in your favor if you are trying to find a good man. Maybe work out a little, watch what you eat, take care of your skin and hair and whatever else that will help you look as good as you feel. You should also consider what you wear in which case you can never go wrong with a flattering outfit. The important thing here is to be true to yourself and your style. It doesn’t matter whether you like your hair kinky or curly, your face natural or made up or your clothes fancy or casual. Just make sure to always put your best foot forward.
8. Get out of your comfort zone; literally and metaphorically
No one ever found love seated at home or cooped up in their office cubicle. If you are looking for a good guy you need to get yourself out in the real world. You also need to get out your comfort zone in a metaphorical sense. There are many amazing guys out there that don’t run in your circles. Venture out and you just might snug yourself one.
9. Put on your big girl pants and initiate
As a 21st century empowered woman, you shouldn’t be afraid to make the first move. Initiating shows strength and confidence which is really attractive to real men ready to settle. So if you like it, go for it.
10. Be patient; your Prince Charming or Duke of Awesomeness will come
Finally, be patient princess. Love takes time. For some it comes quick with a smile on the subway being all you need to get the ball rolling. For others it might take years in the friend zone before the ultimate upgrade to wifey. Whatever your story, you need to be patient and remember all good things come to those who wait.
Happily ever after?
With all these tips, you should be able to get on the right track when figuring out how to get a man. The most important thing however is to love yourself and be content in your own company. It might sound cheesy but it is truly the only way to secure a happily ever after despite the outcome of your search for love.
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