While most people’s definition of intimacy revolves around the act of pleasuring one another in a physical capacity, contrasting opinions paint intimacy as an emotional bond which sometimes can be manifested physically through sexual intercourse.
Many understand the imperative role intimacy serves in a marriage but few are usually aware when the quality of their love lives begins to wane. So what are the warning signs that can be observed in a union that’s losing its passion?
How does a marriage turn sexless?
Usually, two are the main types of causes for reducing sexual intimacy in marriage: physical and psychological.
Physical problems are usually associated with age, illness or lack of sex drive, and may include male impotence or a variety of female health and hormonal problems that affect reproductive systems. These physical problems can cause pain or anxiety, as a partner will reject their lover to avoid the pressure of having to solve the issues.
Psychological problems are a much more difficult thing to deal with as they can be many and varied, but usually stem from dissatisfaction from within the marriage, within the partners themselves or from external sources. Psychological causes include:
There might be many more reasons why a marriage can go from being "hot and steamy" to "icy cold" in the bedroom department. Ultimately, only you and your partner know the real reason why this has happened and whether you really want to change things.
Can a sexless marriage SURVIVE?
The emotional satisfaction deriving from intimate acts such as intercourse and other sexual activities is crucial for the emotional well-being in a marriage.
Regardless of the root cause, a lack of intimacy can be subconsciously interpreted as neglect, which eventually escalates to self-blame for the partner’s lack of affection. The result is often a feeling of low self-esteem, bitterness, and guilt, which sometimes can even trigger a state of depression.
Ultimately, a sexless marriage crumbles. As much as some spouses strongly believe that they can still be together even if intimacy of any kind is off the table, the cracks begin to show sooner or later.
Nipping intimacy issues in the bud...
Intimacy in marriage, just like any other facet of the union, requires time and devotion to blossom into the type of undying affection seen in couples whose unions last for decades. Physical contact—and not just sex—should be taken very seriously.
"Small acts such as holding hands while walking, verbally expressing affection towards each other and generally being amicable towards each other goes a long way in keeping the passion alive."
Ivan Verr, relationship coach
Did you take the quiz and found out your marriage is turning sexless?
Fortunately, even a marriage whose embers are dying can be sparked anew provided both partners put in the effort. Here are some tips on how to get a sexless marriage back on track:
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